It's that Seasonal Thing Again

I've been writing articles on SAD - seasonal depression/affective disorder for more than 25 years. There's not much new to say about it, but there are plenty of more reasons to be SAD.

I am working with a lot of teens and young adults right now who are acting out and getting into trouble and doing risky things, which are all normal to adolescent development. What is not normal is running your parents into the ground.

In other words, young people move around the world without much heed to consequences. Like my client who told the whole school she was having a Halloween Party and 300 people were going to show up. The best thing you can tell your kids is: "Did you think it through??" Let's break it down. First of all, how do you think things through if you don't have the cognitive maturity to do so? This has always fascinated me. It's like the climbers on Mt. Everest: how can they use their rational brains to make good decisions without oxygen!!?? By definition you are handicapping yourself at the most dangerous moments of your life! Here are some ways to practice this and take away the mystery.

• Define the Decision Clearly: Understand the problem or opportunity you are facing.

• Gather Relevant Information: Research and collect data that may influence your decision.

• Consider the Alternatives: List all possible options and evaluate their pros and cons.

• Weigh the Evidence: Analyze the information and assess how each option aligns with your goals.

• Involve Others: Seek input from trusted friends, colleagues, or experts to gain different perspectives.

• Consider the Long-Term Impact: Think about how your decision will affect you and others in the future.

• Trust Your Instincts: Listen to your gut feelings, especially if you have experience in similar situations.

• Make the Decision: Choose the best option based on your analysis and intuition.

• Implement the Decision: Take action to put your choice into effect.

• Reflect on the Outcome: After some time, evaluate the results of your decision to learn and improve for the future.

Now you may be wondering what if I make a mistake. MAKING MISTAKES IS THE ONLY WAY WE LEARN! Keep making mistakes. Fall on your face. Good for you! You see the kids who are not trying? Sitting in their rooms or on their phones all night? Please get out there and see what real life has to offer. This is your time!