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Taking a break from FOMO
Since the ubiquity of the iphone in the hands of everyone above middle school around 2011, we got a window into the whole world of...
Jun 22, 20242 min read


Both Sides Now
From my almost famous Podcast: Describe how to engage an adolescent starting therapy - start very slowly and gently, take a few sessions...
May 29, 20242 min read


“Death of a Book Man”
My Father was a book man. Door to door at first, like his father, selling magazines before him, although they both had a secret penchant...
May 27, 20243 min read


Pet Loss - The Silent Grief
In my groups we discuss pets a lot. I have always allowed space for my clients and their pets. Pets are an amazing source of comfort to...
Apr 30, 20243 min read


Learning from Burnout
I read the following passage from a colleague: My research has gotten me thinking about how burnout has shown up in my own life, and in...
Feb 27, 20243 min read


Triangulation - Why is 3 So Hard?
In therapy 3's are dangerous. The potential for triangulation is rife. Three means exclusion, secrets, pairs and pains. Like the...
Feb 17, 20243 min read


Year of the Dragon (Pt. 2)
The year we spent in China was life-altering. We learned to rely on each other in very specific ways, my husband for his stature...
Jan 21, 20243 min read


Teenagers and Therapists; Trust and Red Flags and Negotiation
Going through your younger years in isolation from peers and family is the ultimate loneliness. When young people tell you I didn't...
Dec 21, 20232 min read


Keep Calm and Change Your Vocabulary
IF my life was described nowadays, it would be soooo different. The story of my life would be A. Trauma, B. Trauma Bonding C....
Dec 17, 20232 min read


We Are the Light: Young Adults and Magical Thinking
During a poetry therapy workshop I recently took, I wrote the following: Fear and change are part of the inevitability We shape the...
Nov 20, 20233 min read


Field of Dreams and Nightmares
This past week, with the assault on Israel's way of life, will change the course of history. A millennium old conflict will now be...
Oct 18, 20232 min read


Working in the Suicide Space
Working as a consultant for a local suicide prevention group, I have been exposed to harrowing stories and heartbreaking losses....
Sep 29, 20234 min read


Yellow Means Pause
Welcome to my hometown where the breathtaking views of the Hudson only caution the inability to dip in. Life requires self-discipline and...
Sep 20, 20232 min read


Rain Over New Paltz
Everything is fine. Anxiety - check, depression - check, trauma - check. So why do I feel so bad? What if you just realized that your...
Sep 4, 20234 min read


Learning from Loss
Now my big girl is turning 25. She is off to big law which means you continue law school knowing you are scooped up into a world of...
Aug 13, 20232 min read


Happy Birthday to Me, and Many More...
7.27 IN my family of origin, birthdays were big deals. My Dad always called and said, "how could you be this old - that makes ME old!"...
Jul 27, 20232 min read


The Unexpected is the Path to Personal Growth
I try to tell my clients and kids that no matter what is going on outside, pay attention to keeping yourself steady on the inside. The...
Jul 17, 20232 min read


The Change is Within
After all the talking is the listening. Listening to your own inner wisdom takes time, patience and work. Being quiet, peaceful and calm...
Jun 22, 20233 min read


Orange is the New... To be Safe and Free from Violence
PHOTO CREDIT: MOMS' DEMAND ACTION Listening to Tara Brach on how to get unstuck and I realize that I have adult separation anxiety. Why...
Jun 8, 20232 min read


Time Keeps on Ticking Into the Future
I want to fly like an eagle... Songs of the 70s. We are getting old. Some of my classmates have already passed on. I am nearing the age...
May 30, 20232 min read
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